Questions to Ask Yourself Before Hiring a Coach

 

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Out of many questions about what is Coaching? what is exactly am I doing as a Professional Coach ;-) and what can Coaches do for you?

I would encourage you to ask yourself below questions before you decide if you need to hire a coach. When needed you can put a scale in each question to get better clarity on your own answers.

Coach is not a magician and not a healing-shaman. Coaches can only help you as much as you want them to help you.  And yes, professional coaches have code of ethics (like any professional do – doctors, journalists, lawyers)  and extensive hours of learnings and practices. And last but not least — always trust your gut feel :-)

Enjoy the questioning and hope you learn more about yourself afterwards. 

  1. Am I fulfilled? is there anything in my life that I can progress better ?
  2. Am I open enough to listen ?
  3. Am I really really wanting this so bad ? How badly I want this?
  4. Am I ready to create more focus in my life and business?
  5. Am I having the courage to raise hands and ask questions?
  6. Am I willing to take risks and try new things ?
  7. Am I ready to move forward ?
  8. Am I ready to grow personally and professionally?
  9. Am I open to trying new ideas instead of continuing to do the things that have not worked in the past?
  10. Am I ready to create and clarify a compelling vision for my life and business?
  11. Am I ready to take action on that vision?
  12. Am I willing to stop self-defeating behaviors?
  13. Am I willing to let go ?
  14. Am I ready to start managing my time and money effectively?
  15. Am I willing to discover and change fears and beliefs that hold me back?
  16. Am I ready to accept responsibility for my success and happiness in life? as well as accepting my pain and tough times.
  17. Am I willing to do homework between my weekly coaching calls?
  18. Am I willing to make the time commitment necessary to make each coaching appointment, without distractions during the session?
  19. Am I willing to invest time, money, willpower and energy into taking better care of myself and creating the business and life I want?
  20. Am I ready to create more balance in my life?
  21. Am I ready to improve my personal or business relationships?
  22. Am I ready to make real and positive changes in my life?
  23. Am I ready to find and live my life’s purpose?
  24. Am I feeling stuck or nothing really interest me ?
  25. Am I ready to create balance in my work and home life?
  26. Am I ready to create a great habit of self-discipline?
  27. Am I ready to act self-confidently?
  28. Am I ready to be self-motivated?
  29. Am I ready to hire a coach to help me achieve my dream ?
  30. Am I ready for the better me ?

 

PS. Do keep me posted on how you feel afterwards.

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Rini
is professionally registered as Member of International Coach Federation.

The INTROVERT-claimed (Un)Secret Toolbox

 

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I know if I told you here that I was an Introvert, that you might laugh at it. “Yea.. yea.. you like talking so much and you like to be on stage…Now you tell me you’re an introvert? for sure!”

What you did not know was that, I used to lost my voices in front on microphones (still do if you force me to sing), and I still do have small voices in class that someone need to tell me to speak louder cause they cant hear me. To some degree I enjoy being introvert and having no obligation to share my voice. At least at that what I thought..

I like to be on stage only for teaching not for showing, I like performing when it is the other way of saying in words. Well see how much I try to avoid speaking… I would rather do the work than telling people what they need to do. So much energy saved from my end.

I bring books everywhere even to dining table and family gathering ; and I merely growing up having a play time (I love books and love staying home). When I was 14, I faced a sort of weird question from my family asking if I have any friends and go out – then I realized that perhaps I should be going out and make friends. Then I go to my 1 and only friend and we read books at her place :-) And even when I was 20, I prefer to read my big giant communication lecture book at my boyfriend’s family gathering!

We enjoy time for ourselves, and that the beauty of being introvert is that we have a great excuse to just Be. But the fact that there’s both sides in each and every of us where we can be – by choice, consciously and subconsciously. And even Carl Jung himself who first introduce this concept says that people are more likely to be a combination of both, if there’s a person having only 1 side that it must be lunatic.

As Professional Coach, I deal with numbers of Introvert-claim clients who is trying to live in an Extrovert-claim world, where one’s performance is related to visibility and proximity that one can create with stakeholders. Ah well, honestly speaking this is our real and common world, because people is not commonly gifted with sixth sense to read mind :-)

But here are some resources that I normally share with my fellow introverts, that might be useful for you or your friends:

 

And how I personally deal with it ?

  1. If you really care you will. If it really matters to you to share you will find a way. And as the team leader at work, I have the obligation to ensure that the work and the team are being recognized because their career is also depend on their visibility. And their family is a great reason for me to help them to care a bit about their own career. So yes I will speak, because when the leader speak, it will amplifies. Ask yourself, ‘What is the need for you to speak? How important is it for you to connect with people you just met ?
  2. Practice, Practice, Practice. Yes, even an extrovert boss that I known of would still spare time to practice presentations and practice the speech. Don’t ask why they don’t practice in front of you. Ask why you should practice harder than those who claim to be natural extrovert. They choose to be practice as an Introvert ;-) And tell me, ‘How often would it takes for you to have a nice and comforting interaction with someone? How long have you have known your close peers or friends ?’
  3. Do what you most fear. Talk to whom you hardly talk. The thing about being an introvert is its comfort zone. It is just so comfort that you just want to stay there. But we live in an evolving world where change is the most constant thing to happen. So find your inner button and practice on facing your own fear. Ask yourself, ‘what if everything goes well? What the worst thing that you can do ? Can you still live with it ?’
  4. JUST DO. I really don’t like telling people what to do that one of my biggest mistake is taking any responsibility avails hoping that it will trigger others. This initiative of taking responsibility has taught me great thing, it is to not try and JUST DO. To park your fussy mind who tries to analyze people and situation and JUST DO. For God’s sake, if you have good intention then be firm with it. If you wanna do good, don’t think twice. Ask you self, ‘What stops you from doing it?’ and please not to answer being an introvert.
  5. Voice Matters. You never know if your story or even your life can help others. There’s a lot that we can learn from people experiences and people’s life, and many cases I found myself really grateful to be connected to people who opens up themselves, to be vulnerably open, and they make me feel that I am not alone. When we connect with others, we are also sending that message that you are not alone. Human is engineered with its needs for connection with others that will also impact your wellbeing — physically and emotionally. That is why you should ask yourself, ‘What is the message that is Life carry with you in your Life? And whom you should share that message ? What if the thing that you least consider, matters most to others? you can never tell unless you share.

And I would like to know how you cope with your Introversions and any relevant articles/resources that might help, you will never know who might Thankful to you :-)

THANK YOU

1 : 99

Very often our 1 case of negative experience taking over the rest of 99 positive experiences that we have.
Very often that 1 toxic friend take over your life than other 99 that nourish your presence in their life.
Very often that we are focused in 1 instead of 99, though we knew by logic that this 1 might be just one yet you let your whole life ruined by this one.
The math is the same in coaching, why would you focus to 1 employee that gives you most trouble than the rest 99 that appreciate and need you most for their growth?
#dothemath
#coachingcalculus
#professionalcoaching

 

Rini Coaching

LIFE IS A MIRROR

 

They said that the world will laugh with you when you laugh.
As if you saw the flapping leaves giggling between the tickling winds.

And when you cry, you will cry alone.
As if the sky shut down the lights, the sun doesn’t care how tired you have been.

The truth is, life is a mirror.

The Mirror wall in Amber Fort - Jaipur - INDIA
The Mirror wall in Amber Fort – Jaipur – INDIA

You are what you see. Life can only be the echo of it.
When you are happy then you will see the world from a happy thoughts. Those grey nerves in your brain start sparking a happy feeling which triggers the rest of the brain to think, feel, and act as a happy person as in result you see the world as happy, cause you stand in a happy place.

On the contrary, when you’re in despair, you see things as sad. Your body is closed, your eyes gaze down and all your brain can figure is to express that sadness. Then life amplifies it.

Life amplifies you. What you feel, think, and do.
Life is your own reflection.

When someone hurt you, you can only feel hurt when you allow it. Then the question has shifted from, ‘why do you hurt me?’ To ‘what’s in the action that press my sadness button?’
Then you will start to look inside and behind, then you meet yourself and get to know yourself better. It doesn’t really matter when one hurts you, at the end it’s how you responds to it.

Because life reflects you well.
#yogaphilosophy
#yogalifecoaching
#lifeisamirror

Are You ALIVE today ?

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Few questions for yourself when you wake up in the morning,

How do you want to remember today ?

How are you going to make your dream come true ?

Are you awake? I meant fully awake realizing the breathe and your heartbeats..

What stops you today ?

Who’s voice is that in your head ?

Are you breathing ? can you really feel the air?

When if not now is the best time to start ?

Where if not here is the best place to be ?

Who if not you who knows your dream best ?

What if not a chance you will be asking for ?

How if not making mistakes then you will learn from it ?

What have you learnt from yesterday ?

What is most important in your life ?

Why wait ?